This
quarantine thing, it’s something unlike anything we have ever seen before in
this magnitude. On a much smaller scale, I remember when I was a kid and we
were quarantined at home for three weeks because my mother and brother had
scarletina.
Three weeks
seemed like a lifetime then. In today’s world, that was nothing. The biggest
difference is that we knew when and how it would end. Today, perhaps the
scariest part, is not having those answers.
But, it’s
not all bad. OK, OK, I know you all want to jump down my throat right about
now. But, before you throw me under the bus, give me a couple minutes. My heart
and prayers go out to everyone who is missing something through this, which is
basically everyone. Besides the health scare, there is the HUGE economic impact
on everyone and everyone’s world is turned upside down, everywhere you turn
there are hardships of some sort.
We have all
heard the saying that we can have time or money but not both at the same time.
Money is tight now with folks losing their jobs because of the closures, stock
prices are falling…finances are uncertain. Time is a different story. We all
have this big chunk of time that we can either use or lose.
I don’t know
how many times I have complained because kids, and us adults, are always on our
electronic devices. Families can hardly go out to eat and enjoy each other’s
company; each of them would be on their phone texting someone else. The irony
of this is that, if they were with the person that they were texting, they
would be still be texting someone else. It seems like we are never happy just
being in the moment.
Lately, we
look at social media differently. We are social by nature and this quarantine,
though necessary, has cut us off from relatives, friends and, literally, the
world. If it weren’t for social media, we would have no contact. It’s amazing
how our perspective changes when our circumstances change.
I have a
friend who is a pharmacist. She said that the other day, kids actually came
into the pharmacy looking for puzzles. Did you ever think that we would see the
day when kids of today would tire of being on their phones…and puzzles, really?
Some things do come full circle.
Maybe, too,
social distancing has actually brought us closer together as families. Up until
this crisis, most of us were not living true to the definition of a family, “a
group consisting of parents and children living together in a household.” The
key word here is living, most of us weren’t living as a family, but rather we
were co-existing.
How many of
us did this scenario fit: one child is off to a sports practice, another is
hanging out at a friend’s house, Dad is working late and Mom is doing errands.
Instead of the exception, this had become the norm in our world. We have all
become so busy. Busy is good, being engaged is good, but not at the cost of
replacing all family time.
Growing up
on the farm, most of us kids’ free time was spent on the farm because there was
always something to do. However, there was one steadfast rule: we were all
expected to attend Sunday dinner…no exceptions. Today, how many families
actually eat a meal together? The norm has become more “grab and go” which is
why the closing of restaurants has hit us so hard.
It is hard
to cook a meal when everyone is on a different time schedule. It has been so
much easier to grab something at the drive-through, whether you are on your way
home from work, on the way to practice or just general coming and going. Even
when families are together, it’s just easier to “go out.”
Maybe now is
the time to rediscover the joy of cooking together and enjoying meals together
again. Dig in that pantry and discover new dishes with what’s on hand, resurrect
some old family recipes and relish actually tasting the food instead of the
usual “gulp and go.” Who knows, we may even decide that the family dinner table
isn’t so bad after all and going out to eat will again become what it is
supposed to be, a treat instead of just a quick meal solution.
I can hear
some of your thoughts now, “We have been doing things together. The whole
family goes to the son’s (daughter’s, grandchild’s) basketball game, baseball
game, band concert, dance recital or other event.” Yep, pretty much true, but
are we really together for the event. We all rush around from the day’s activities
to get to the event on time, the child is performing and the rest of the family
is in the stands and afterwards everyone rushes home to do chores and get ready
for the next day…not exactly family time.
One young
lady that I know is doing just that. Maggie is a very enlightened, ambitious young
teen who is being very creative with her “gift” of time. An up and coming
writer herself, she is writing articles and staying connected through social
media with her friends that share like interests in her writing club. She is
very creative and is using this time to start new projects.
This little
gal has inspired me. She knows that now is the time to delve into a couple
projects rather than wasting this precious gift. I will be digging into a
couple things that I have had on the back burner. Maybe there is a lesson here
for all of us, kudos to her.
In another
case of irony, while surfing Netflix the other night, we found something that
was both unusual and also refreshing. In a time when we are all urged to
“shelter at home,” we found Leon Logothetis who is a world traveler. We watched
his memoir “The Kindness Diaries” in which he documents his travels from Alaska
to Argentina in a 1971 Volkswagen Beetle that he named Kindness Two.
What an
incredible find at this trying time. His underlying message throughout is that
kindness gives us hope so we don’t feel alone. How appropriate is that, not
only for now, but all time!
I am so heartbroken
for all the seniors who are missing their senior year, for all the sports teams
who have lost what they have worked so hard for, for all the folks whose jobs
are uncertain through no fault of their own, for everyone who is suffering in
one way or another.
But, in
light of that, the optimist in me has hope. Hope that maybe the world doesn’t
need to be as large as it has become, that there are adventures in our own
backyard that we can explore; that family can be just as exciting and loving
and cool to be around as our friends; that we don’t need to always race through
life; that kindness can still move mountains.
I hope that
when this scourge passes, as it will, that our new normal will always include
this new, good place that we are just re-discovering. I hope that part lasts a
long time.